How to Attract Guys by Understanding Them First
The battle of the sexes has been raging on from quite some time. And we are not talking about just simple conflicts stemming from gender differences.
We also need to look at how we see and treat the opposite sex just so we can understand this conflict fairly well.
For much of their chagrin, men will always be mystified by women. And that’s because it is easier for them to call women as complicated and, in extreme cases, unstable.
Think about how many of them will look at women as highly emotional, if not irrational, to some point.
That can be true, since women will admit time and again that they don’t really know exactly what they want from their guys. But this is not to say that it’s only women who have problems.
In the same way, spouses, colleagues, girlfriends and fiancés will say pretty much the same thing about their male counterparts. Men are as much a mystery to women as women are to them.
And don’t get surprised. Women are also curious at how men operate. Think of how they see their husbands or boyfriends like they were specimen in a petri dish.
That’s because they want to know more about men, and why keep on doing things that irritate women in the first place.
Still, this remains to be a pressing challenge for most women, as men are very reluctant to share how they feel. Being the macho, testosterone-fueled animals that they are, men’s minds are not that easy to dissect.
One thing’s for sure, women can always find ways to navigate through the intricate system of sports teams and rock bands in men’s minds and truly understand why the dudes do these things.
But while it is impossible to uncover any useful information from their men’s minds, women may still get approximates on how men do as they please.
Ways to Attract Men by Looking Deeper
How to attract guys has been a nagging question among women for centuries and some of the answers are staring you at the face. Relationship advice for women should also focus on men’s deeper facets.
For that, we should start off with a few facts that most women might have overlooked or misunderstood so that no women should be asking themselves “does my boyfriend love me” questions.
Men are Sensitive
The myth of the alpha male is busted on the fact that men are generally sensitive creatures, able to break down in a waterfall of tears whenever testosterone is unable to thwart it. Even the manliest of lumberjacks may tear up at the sight of something that touches the soul.
And this is because men are so good at keeping their emotions to themselves. They just contain them in their guts until they couldn’t contain them any longer, so they let it out in an uncontrollable, emotional maelstrom.
So, whenever you tell a guy to let his feelings out, expect him to cry profusely. He will then revert back to his manly side like nothing happened, but expect the look of relief in his face knowing he had let out a heavy emotional baggage he had been keeping within.
Men Don’t Always go for Conflicts
Most people will presume that men are war freaks, always having an appetite for violence. You can say in, for example 9th century Scandinavia, but men in essence know better than to let their primal instincts loose.
For a lot of men, fighting is reserved only as a last resort. Since men are keener on resolving conflicts before they become worse, they will reserve their fists just in case the situation calls for it. In terms of relationships, men will always prefer to stay on passive mode until the conflict simmers down.
They are not an emotional bunch and they know all too well that fighting back can only make the conflict last longer. They prefer to wait it out, and when the other party cools down, men will pull out the diplomatic card and start talking.
Yes, Men are the Marrying Kind
In many cultures, it is always the men who want to get married the soonest. In fact, men are the most pressured to find a mate, since in many societies (even the most progressive ones) emphasizes the need for men to be in long-lasting relationships.
Surprisingly, men do want to get married. Becoming a bachelor has its perks, but it doesn’t beat the fact that you need to someone to share your life with.
Eventually, men will always pick rearing a good family over everything else, since living a bachelor’s life is lonely as hell!