How to Win Your Ex Back with Planning
Nobody wants to feel alone. Nobody wants the feeling of being left hanging by someone after all the time and emotions you have already invested to them. Then again, things like this do not just happen abruptly.
For sure, you somehow saw it coming but ignored it. I can’t really blame you for that. There are always tons of what ifs lurking everywhere.
Now, you wouldn’t be reading this if you aren’t interested in mending your relationship and make your lover stay with you for good, so let me help you with that. Let us break down the things that you CAN do to get your ex back without risking pushing him or her away further.
Communication is very essential to just about everyone and that includes you and your lover. With that in mind, the typical reaction would be to get rid of the distance or lack of communication between the two of you.
It is true, that would be the easiest thing to do, but you have to know that this method is most likely to result into you pushing your lover further. So, what to do? Read on below…
1. Stay where you are and don’t do anything
Yes, I am not kidding. This is not because I am pushing you to let your pride get in the way of everything. If you want something to work again, you have to let it rest and then start working on it again.
Just like wounds, before the skin gets back to functioning normally again, you have to let it heal.
The same rule applies to you. You have to let yourself heal first in order for you to be able to decide without any trace of anger, sadness, or selfishness.
2. Know when to make Contact
You will know for yourself when you are ready. Try not to cheat yourself just to get to this stage because no one else will suffer the consequences but you. Everyone understands the fact that you cannot wait to communicate with your ex-lover.
Do not, even for once, think that you are the only one who knows that fact because everyone at some point in their lives has experienced it already. Then again, trying to cheat them by making yourself look nonchalant on the outside isn’t working because you are only cheating yourself.
Make sure you know that you are really ready to make the contact, swallow your pride and get in touch with your ex-lover. If you want an explanation or you want your explanation to be heard, this is the best time to do it.
3. See each other face-to-face
No matter what response you got from your recent communication with your ex-lover, may it be good or bad, you still need to see each other. This is to show that despite what happened your respect for each other isn’t lost.
If you want to thoroughly end the relationship, do it face-to-face. Then again, we aren’t hoping for that to happen and so let us focus on the better and brighter side – getting back together.
Do not expect for the both of you to be all sweet with each other immediately. It is only normal to feel a little anxiety and awkwardness. Take the time to warm up to each other again, and explain personally what needs to be explained because this is where your sincerity lies.
Try your best not to get into an argument with each other and just talk everything out calmly.
Get Ex Back by Containing Yourself
After talking to each other face-to-face, it is the best option to have some time alone to think and absorb all the explanations and emotions that your ex-lover tried to make you understand.
Never, ever make any drastic decision in the height of an emotion or it’s your loss in the end.
A day or two will suffice, and once your time alone is done, communicate again with your ex-lover and tell him or her what it is that you came up with and how you were able to understand his or her side.
Take things slow, because the one who truly loves you won’t easily give you up just like that.