Getting Back with Ex Can be Tricky
At times, the factor that makes breaking up permanent between couples is because the woman accidentally scared her ex-lover while she is trying to win him back.
Many women wouldn’t admit this, but they know for themselves this fact, because just like anyone who lost a loved one, women always choose to do just about everything they can just to keep their chosen one for good.
Of course, you wouldn’t want to scare your ex-lover away. So, what can you do? Below are some pointers that you cab apply to make sure you don’t spook your ex-boyfriend while trying to win him back.
1. Give him some space
Let the poor guy breathe. We all know you wanted to smother him with kisses, hugs, apologies, and cuddles, just to show how much you love him and want him back but doing this will only make him feel constrained. Chances are, he will avoid you after that kind of incident so keep your hands to yourself. Control it!
2. Get jealousy off your system
Here is a rule of thumb: If he is yours, then feel free to have the right to be jealous. If he ISN’T yours (effective as soon as a break up between you is declared), control those emotions. You aren’t restricted from feeling jealous, after all, we are humans and we are bound to feel emotions as reactions to events. Then again, keep the emotions to yourself.
If your ex-lover has another woman around him, HE DOESN’T DESERVE YOUR TIME. That is because it only means that while he is with you, he’s been flirting with other girls already. A proper man who honestly loves you wouldn’t hang around another woman right after breaking up with you because of a big fight.
3. Signals are for young lovers
You are a mature woman who has invested much of her time to a man. If you need to tell him something important, then tell it to him straight up. There is no need for you to play mind and guessing games, because games like it will only complicate things that are already complicated. You wouldn’t want that happening or you risk losing your man for good.
4. Love yourself
This doesn’t mean you have to forget him already. If you still love him and you want to get him back, try to analyze what went wrong. You can’t blame him entirely for what happened and you can’t blame yourself entirely either. It always takes two to tango.
By this time, you surely know for yourself what really went wrong and what it is that you’ve done to contribute to this break up. And so, the most wonderful thing you can do for the both of you while you are away from each other is to forgive, love, and improve yourself.
A man who really loves you will notice even the slightest change in you and he will appreciate what you’ve done to yourself. A man who still rejects you after this is not worth your time. Do this and at the end of the day, whether he takes you back or not isn’t necessary anymore, because you won.
Despite a real break-up or a small challenge that rocked your relationship with your lover, you came out stronger and better. That is what matters in the end.